July 16, 2019

Ep108: The Problem with The Ask

When you’re starting a new venture, you’re all passion and enthusiasm. But can you expect your team to be the same? How much is too much to ask of the people around you? Why is that important for business?  When you are getting something new...

When you’re starting a new venture, you’re all passion and enthusiasm. But can you expect your team to be the same? How much is too much to ask of the people around you?

Why is that important for business? 

When you are getting something new off the ground, you are often asking people to make your priority their priority. 

You may have some basic rules – you won’t ask anyone else to do something you aren’t willing to do yourself, for instance. But there aren’t any hard rules about what is too much, because everyone is different. Ultimately, this is a conversation you have to have with your staff individually – you can’t guess where other people’s boundaries are. 

Everyone has a different limit. Finding out what is too much has to be an individual conversation, but if you establish the right culture, that conversation gets easier to have. That culture has to be one where things aren’t left to fester; where no one is above anything; and where the enthusiasm and dedication that you have for what you do becomes contagious. If you can create such a culture, where you notice and nurture the people who are almost as passionate as you are, you can build around them. 

Resources Mentioned

Chris Vos, Never Split the Difference: Negotiating as if your Life Depended on it, 

https://info.blackswanltd.com/never-split-the-difference

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